Why it exists
Some resources began with things I realised I did not know, wanted to remember, wanted to handle differently, or learned through difficult circumstances.
The site is not a record of who was right or wrong. It is not a fathers’ rights site, a mothers’ rights site, a court strategy site or a place to prove a case.
Behind the project
Back to the Child was not built from having all the answers.
A major turning point came through a Men’s Behaviour Change Program. One of the most important things I began learning there was how much blame and guilt were keeping me stuck.
The more I stopped asking who was at fault and started asking what I could learn, change and take responsibility for, the more I could actually move forward.
That shift carried into parenting programs, reading, conversations, reflection and the notes I kept making for myself — things I wanted to remember when emotions were high or parenting felt difficult.
Some of those notes became reminders. Some became posters, cards and practical tools.
Eventually they became Back to the Child.
Not because I worked everything out, but because I learned to keep returning to a simpler question:
What does my child need from me right now?
The work continues as I continue learning.
Keep the lesson
Lived experience can inform a useful tool without turning private conflict into public content. Names, allegations, case details and blame do not belong here.
Practical before performative
The aim is not to look like a good parent. The aim is to keep practising being one: listening, learning, preparing, regulating, repairing and growing.
Take what helps. Leave what doesn’t. Come back to the child.
Get in touch
Questions or feedback about the project can be sent to [email protected].