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Come back to the child.

When everything feels loud, begin with one steady question:

What does my child need from me right now?
  1. 01

    What you can control

    Name what you are feeling. Notice how you are responding. Choose one useful action that belongs to you.

  2. 02

    Know their world

    Learn the everyday details: what they enjoy, what feels difficult, and what helps them feel comfortable.

  3. 03

    Prepare for the time you have

    Think about what would help the child feel welcomed, settled and able to connect.

  4. 04

    Regulate before reacting

    Pause before responding. Give the child room to be a child, without carrying adult feelings.

  5. 05

    Repair when needed

    Acknowledge mistakes simply, listen, and let changed behaviour do some of the talking.

  6. 06

    Keep learning

    Children keep changing. Stay curious about who they are becoming.