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Kids Reference

A simple way to stay connected to the ordinary details of a child’s life.

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For knowing and supporting the child—not building a case.

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Kids Reference · 01

Clothes & Sizes

The everyday details that make preparing a little easier.

What to know	Child 1	Child 2
T-shirt size	T-shirt size, Child 1	T-shirt size, Child 2
Long-sleeve shirt size	Long-sleeve shirt size, Child 1	Long-sleeve shirt size, Child 2
Jumper / hoodie size	Jumper / hoodie size, Child 1	Jumper / hoodie size, Child 2
Shorts size	Shorts size, Child 1	Shorts size, Child 2
Pants / trackies size	Pants / trackies size, Child 1	Pants / trackies size, Child 2
Underwear size	Underwear size, Child 1	Underwear size, Child 2
Pyjama size	Pyjama size, Child 1	Pyjama size, Child 2
Shoe size	Shoe size, Child 1	Shoe size, Child 2
Sock size	Sock size, Child 1	Sock size, Child 2
Hat size	Hat size, Child 1	Hat size, Child 2
Favourite colours	Favourite colours, Child 1	Favourite colours, Child 2
Favourite clothes / styles	Favourite clothes / styles, Child 1	Favourite clothes / styles, Child 2
Clothes they dislike	Clothes they dislike, Child 1	Clothes they dislike, Child 2
Favourite shoes	Favourite shoes, Child 1	Favourite shoes, Child 2

Kids Reference · 02

Preferences change. Stay curious and check in again.

What to know	Child 1	Child 2
Favourite breakfast	Favourite breakfast, Child 1	Favourite breakfast, Child 2
Favourite lunch	Favourite lunch, Child 1	Favourite lunch, Child 2
Favourite dinner	Favourite dinner, Child 1	Favourite dinner, Child 2
Favourite snacks	Favourite snacks, Child 1	Favourite snacks, Child 2
Favourite fruit	Favourite fruit, Child 1	Favourite fruit, Child 2
Favourite vegetables	Favourite vegetables, Child 1	Favourite vegetables, Child 2
Favourite dessert / treat	Favourite dessert / treat, Child 1	Favourite dessert / treat, Child 2
Favourite drink	Favourite drink, Child 1	Favourite drink, Child 2
Favourite takeaway	Favourite takeaway, Child 1	Favourite takeaway, Child 2
Favourite restaurant / food place	Favourite restaurant / food place, Child 1	Favourite restaurant / food place, Child 2
Foods they dislike	Foods they dislike, Child 1	Foods they dislike, Child 2
Textures they dislike	Textures they dislike, Child 1	Textures they dislike, Child 2
Sauces / condiments	Sauces / condiments, Child 1	Sauces / condiments, Child 2
Things they want me to cook	Things they want me to cook, Child 1	Things they want me to cook, Child 2
Current food obsession	Current food obsession, Child 1	Current food obsession, Child 2

Kids Reference · 03

What is catching their attention right now?

What to know	Child 1	Child 2
Favourite game	Favourite game, Child 1	Favourite game, Child 2
Favourite video game	Favourite video game, Child 1	Favourite video game, Child 2
Favourite TV show	Favourite TV show, Child 1	Favourite TV show, Child 2
Favourite movie	Favourite movie, Child 1	Favourite movie, Child 2
Favourite YouTube channel	Favourite YouTube channel, Child 1	Favourite YouTube channel, Child 2
Favourite music / song	Favourite music / song, Child 1	Favourite music / song, Child 2
Favourite toy	Favourite toy, Child 1	Favourite toy, Child 2
Favourite sport / activity	Favourite sport / activity, Child 1	Favourite sport / activity, Child 2
Current hobby	Current hobby, Child 1	Current hobby, Child 2
Something they want to learn	Something they want to learn, Child 1	Something they want to learn, Child 2
Places they want to go together	Places they want to go together, Child 1	Places they want to go together, Child 2
Things they want to do together	Things they want to do together, Child 1	Things they want to do together, Child 2

Kids Reference · 04

Record only what helps you support the child.

What to know	Child 1	Child 2
Current teacher	Current teacher, Child 1	Current teacher, Child 2
Favourite school subject	Favourite school subject, Child 1	Favourite school subject, Child 2
Least favourite subject	Least favourite subject, Child 1	Least favourite subject, Child 2
Favourite thing about school	Favourite thing about school, Child 1	Favourite thing about school, Child 2
Current school projects / topics	Current school projects / topics, Child 1	Current school projects / topics, Child 2
Friends they talk about	Friends they talk about, Child 1	Friends they talk about, Child 2
Things they find difficult	Things they find difficult, Child 1	Things they find difficult, Child 2
Things they’re proud of	Things they’re proud of, Child 1	Things they’re proud of, Child 2

Kids Reference · 05

Notice what helps them feel settled, understood and prepared.

What to know	Child 1	Child 2
Preferred bedtime	Preferred bedtime, Child 1	Preferred bedtime, Child 2
Bedtime routine	Bedtime routine, Child 1	Bedtime routine, Child 2
Favourite comfort item	Favourite comfort item, Child 1	Favourite comfort item, Child 2
What helps when upset	What helps when upset, Child 1	What helps when upset, Child 2
What makes things worse when upset	What makes things worse when upset, Child 1	What makes things worse when upset, Child 2
Noise sensitivities	Noise sensitivities, Child 1	Noise sensitivities, Child 2
Clothing sensitivities	Clothing sensitivities, Child 1	Clothing sensitivities, Child 2
Food / texture sensitivities	Food / texture sensitivities, Child 1	Food / texture sensitivities, Child 2
Crowds / busy places	Crowds / busy places, Child 1	Crowds / busy places, Child 2
Things that help them regulate	Things that help them regulate, Child 1	Things that help them regulate, Child 2
How they like plans explained	How they like plans explained, Child 1	How they like plans explained, Child 2
How much warning before changes	How much warning before changes, Child 1	How much warning before changes, Child 2

Kids Reference · 06

Ideas for thoughtful moments and time together.

What to know	Child 1	Child 2
Birthday ideas	Birthday ideas, Child 1	Birthday ideas, Child 2
Christmas / celebration ideas	Christmas / celebration ideas, Child 1	Christmas / celebration ideas, Child 2
Things they’re saving for	Things they’re saving for, Child 1	Things they’re saving for, Child 2
Toys / games they want	Toys / games they want, Child 1	Toys / games they want, Child 2
Clothes / shoes they want	Clothes / shoes they want, Child 1	Clothes / shoes they want, Child 2
Experience they’d love	Experience they’d love, Child 1	Experience they’d love, Child 2
Something to make / build together	Something to make / build together, Child 1	Something to make / build together, Child 2

Kids Reference · 07

Reflect on connection—not incidents, evidence or adult conflict.

What to know	Child 1	Child 2
Date	Date, Child 1	Date, Child 2
What did they enjoy today?	What did they enjoy today?, Child 1	What did they enjoy today?, Child 2
What did we laugh about?	What did we laugh about?, Child 1	What did we laugh about?, Child 2
Something I learned about them	Something I learned about them, Child 1	Something I learned about them, Child 2
Something they were proud of	Something they were proud of, Child 1	Something they were proud of, Child 2
Something they want to do next time	Something they want to do next time, Child 1	Something they want to do next time, Child 2
Something I should remember	Something I should remember, Child 1	Something I should remember, Child 2
One thing I want to do better next time	One thing I want to do better next time, Child 1	One thing I want to do better next time, Child 2

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